Why Men Lose

     In the recent years of my life, I have been involved in a remarkable amount of conversation covering the topic of men and women.  More to the point, men versus women.  The subject seems difficult to avoid.  It pops up seemingly without invitation in nearly every possible social setting.  whether I am out with my wife having drinks with our friends or playing pool with the boys, the topic intrudes.  What is troubling about the topic isn't necessarily the frequency with which it wedges itself into my social interactions , but the staunchly divisive stances that seem to be held by both genders that make the topic so negative.  When the topic of gender politics is introduced, the men and women present seem to retreat immediately back into the safety in numbers supplied by their respective genders.  Sisters fight brothers.  Husbands dismiss wives.  Girlfriends mock boyfriends and the beat goes on.

     It was this divisive sort of tendency that brought me to question why the sides are so polarized against the other.  Do we live in a time where cultural changes have emasculated men to the degree of deep resentment towards women?  Are women still fighting an age old gender battle at an energy level not needed since the movement for woman's suffrage?  What are we all fighting about and why can't we seem to find even a thin isthmus of common ground?  This blog will be dedicated to exploring the gender politics that drive this and other topics related to our current social interactions.  I will attempt to form into words what most men won't in order to expose what men understand and what we misunderstand.  Perhaps through such an open forum, men and women might come closer to honesty and begin speaking it as a language.

     Lastly, do not let the blog title fool you.  I believe it to be clear that men have lost ground and value over the past several decades.  I do not profess to know what ground that might be or even that we ever truly had the ground to lose.  I would merely state that it seems clear to me that we have lost much of the respect of the women we live with and around.  But are we earning it?  My hope would be for men to first become more comfortable with admitting the reality that we are losing and then to identify which of our wounds were self inflicted.  I believe it is time for men to examine what we are and above all why we lose.  If we have lost the adoration of women, it is not a thing that can be given back, but only won.  Let's get started!